Acknowledging your own shortcomings as well as understanding the flaws of your spouse make good foundation to healthy and strong relationship between spouses. And the key to it is open communication.
In his article, How to Say “I’m Sorry” and Really Mean It, writer Brooke Ryan enumerates five powerful recommendations to mend relationships that have turned kaput.
It is normal for couples to have misunderstanding and arguments over the course of their married life. But these should not be viewed as a sign to part ways. Instead, these misunderstandings should be taken as trials that needed to be resolved together. After all, you once vowed,
“to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ‘till death do us part…”
But sadly, though, many couples decide to quit rather than persevere when things get rough, seeing parting ways as the best option. This is “escapism” in the truest sense!
And then what? Is escaping from a troubled phase in married life the real solution?
While it is true that certain issues cannot be resolved while you persist in living together, you should also acknowledge that there are problems that can be settled by simply talking it out with your spouse. Perhaps, a simple ‘sorry’ is all you need to heal those wounds.
But, this five-letter word, ‘sorry’, however is the hardest to utter.
And why is it so? It’s because Pride has already set in your minds. Take note that I said minds not heart. Anger and pride are only in your minds. True love never easily fades. It’s just that you allow anger to rule your minds, wrapping that love with a web of hatred.
So, before you finally say goodbye and go your separate ways, try sitting down together and see if you can muster enough courage to say “sorry”. Who knows it’s all that is needed to save your marriage.