My friends often come for me for dating advice. As a single woman, I am often out in the scene. I can get tiring at times; heading out to bars, meeting strangers and trying to balance this with the rest of my life. It can get stressful at times; but it is also a lot of fun. I’ve decided to share some of my dating advice with the rest of the women on the internet, so read on.
NMRE’s Advice: Don’t go out every week
You might feel underpressure to go out and find a man as soon as possible (I have heard many stories of overbearing mothers). But don’t listen to them: the number one thing you need to do is to look after yourself. And trust me – going out week after week after week gets tiring, especially if you throw alcohol into the mix. Don’t go out each week, instead stay in some weekends. Read a book, do your nails and cook yourself a nice home cooked dinner.
NMRE’s Advice: Let the men come to you
As silly as it may sound, a lot of men feel intimidated by women that are assertive when it comes to the dating scene. See, you have to understand men – they like to be the protectors. And if you come in there, guns blazing, then your confidence will be attractive at first – but soon, they’ll start to feel redundant, and feel that they aren’t living up to their image of themselves as a protector. When dating men, you need to make sure you don’t take away their masculinity.
NMRE’s Advice: Don’t go dutch
It is my policy that if you a man asks you out on a date, then he should foot the bill – after all, it is his job to impress you, and not the other way around. And since I advise you to not go to men, except for exceptional circumstances, it should be him asking you out – not the other way around. If you go dutch and split the bill, you are doing the same thing as asking him out. You are removing his feelings of being a protector which, while seemingly convienant in the short term, won’t work out in the long term.
So there you go – look after yourself. Make yourself the priority, not having a boyfriend be your biggest concern. And remember: the boyfriend is to look after you, not the other way around.