A lot of my girlfriends are starting to get into the dating scene again, after being married for 10+ years. And when you get back into dating, it can be a really daunting task to say the least. When you have been married for so long, you forget what it is like to talk to strangers. And when you are with strangers, you have to be a bit different: they don’t know you, they don’t know what you “really” mean, all they do is take your words at face value. First impressions COUNT.
That is why today, I am going to write my blog post on what NOT to say on a date.
DON’T SAY 1: “I am unemployed”
OK: So a lot of wives end up becoming stay-at-home-moms, and ditch their day jobs. And this is fine – as long as you are MARRIED. But now that we are in the 21st century, your date is looking for a woman that is strong an independent: and being unemployed says anything BUT that.
So, what do you say if you are actually unemployed, when he asks you what you are doing? Say that you have been out of the job scene for awhile, and that you are in the process of applying for jobs. This helps if you actually ARE applying for jobs. This makes you look like you are independent, and that you are looking to look after yourself – not be taken care of.
DON’T SAY 2: “What car do you drive?”
Every girl’s dream is to hitch a guy who has money to his name. But when you are on your first dates, you don’t want to appear like a gold-digger. So don’t ask him about the make of his car, unless he brings it up in discussion. Don’t ask him how much he earns. And absolutely do not ask him how many bedrooms he has in his house. You should be interested in HIM, not how much money he has.
DON’T SAY 3: “I am looking to have 5 children”
And please – this ISN’T the time to bring up your hopes and dreams for the future. You are in the very beginning stages of getting to know someone. The truth is, they don’t know yet if they like you or not: and they won’t have time if all they are worrying about is whether or not you’ve made plans before they have.
Some people say – oh, if they don’t want to discuss this, then doesn’t that mean they will never be ready for commitment? NO. It doesn’t mean that at all! As I said, they don’t know yet if they like you enough to keep seeing you – let them just get to know you, before scaring them away. Hope that helps! As always please share a comment on your thoughts.