So you’d rather be out on a date and have a girlfriend or a boyfriend – fair enough. But hey! It isn’t the end of the world. Sometimes we have to be single while we learn why we are driving men away and how to fix it. There are great reasons to be single, and I’m going to share some of them with you now.
Reason #1: You are absolutely free
That is right: you are absolutely free from any responsibilities. While it is nice to be able to have someone else responsible to you, it is less fun being obligated to them. If your job offers you an opportunity that requires you to move half way across the country – why not, right? After all, you have absolutely no one tying you down. Do you want to walk around the house in your underwear? Then DO IT. This might be the only chance you get to have pizza every single night for a whole week. Granted, I hope you are choosing pizza with vegetables on top at least – but why not live the dream while you still can?
Reason #2: You are investing in yourself
When you are with someone, it may be lovely, it may be sweet, it may be comforting. But one thing is certain: you have less to invest in yourself. And, ultimately, you cannot truly invest in someone else if you don’t invest in yourself. Why? Because then you’d have nothing to give! If we feel bad about ourselves and don’t know how to be happy WITHIN OURSELVES then we will never be able to make a partner happy. Which is why being single is an amazing opportunity to reclaim yourself. Instead of having your wants dictated by a partner, now is a time to figure out what exactly you want, and what makes you happier. Learn how to be self-sufficient and happy, so that you never have to rely on someone else.
Reason #3: You get to experience things you wouldn’t have otherwise
My newly singledom was initially quite shocking and not pleasent. I didn’t want to be single. I dreaded the day that I would be single. I had forgotten what it was like to not have a partner. It had been so long that I just didn’t know how to be by myself. I thought that being alone would mean that my life would be less vibrant. But not so! Instead, my life has never been fuller. Being by myself has forced me to try things I’d have never tried. I initially did these things and met new people to stave off the loneliness – but now I am so happy I reached out and made new friends, contacts and went out and tried new things on a Friday night.
Being single was initially scary and I had to take it one day at a time. But now that I’ve been single for awhile, it really isn’t that bad after all. While I’m sure I’d never pick to be by myself, while I’m here, I figure I might as well enjoy the ride and make the most out of it.